Thursday, January 28, 2010

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昨天等待与睡觉当中。。。翻开报纸看到了一篇报道,很有意思,想和大家分享。。。

相爱的时候,我们都渴望重视与被重视,占有与被占有,可是,如何在重视与占有的关系中保持自己与对方的自我,却是优质爱情与劣质爱情的最大分别。好的爱情,是透过一个人看到全世界,让双方的世界变大。劣质爱情正好相反,是因为一个人放弃全世界,包括自我。

当一个人不再有自我,而对方就是他整个世界的时候,他只得不断要求对方对方来肯定他的重要性,不断地要求对方用言语证明他的存在价值。两个人的世界无限缩窄。“我眼中只有你,你眼中只有我”不是爱情的浪漫,而是对双方人生的扼杀。

什么是爱情?一个人,不需依靠另一个人而能够得到经济上、精神上的独立与满足,能够创造快乐应对痛苦,然后才有资格跟另一个这样的人去发生感情,这样的感情叫做爱情。。。

5 comments:

  1. hiuh~ so if oni 1% of ppl havin tht kind of thought n mind~ means oni 1% of ppl suitable to step into tht "love" stage? hiuh~ those wedding company gonna bankrup thn..

    mingming

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  3. i'm stil dunno who r u bt.. come-on~ love--is a process of learning~ u shud say..(sry, cnt write in chinese) 2个发生感情了的人,nid to learn hw to得到经济上、精神上的独立与满足.both of thm shud能够创造快乐应对痛苦..thn thy made -love-~ tht sounds better~ at least to me...==hope u dun get mad 4 d disagreement~

    mingming

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  4. 爱情真有那样复杂吗?

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  5. ming,whoever wrote this that is nt important,cz ald written there分享...n 1 more thing that is nt anything surprise to hear your objections here cz u r owaz "special",maybe i would like to use special,but what's the matter?because your thoughts n your mind are too narrow,even your views,u wont accept anyone suggestion,you just like your own style,maybe your are afraid to accept...

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